Reflective Parenting Podcast by Curious Neuron

Your Triggers Aren’t a Parenting Failure — They’re a Signal

Cindy Hovington, Ph.D. Season 8 Episode 39

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If you’ve ever ended a night thinking, “Why did I snap again?” — this episode is for you.

Today, we’re diving into what’s really happening in your brain and body when your child pushes your buttons. Because those intense reactions? They aren’t proof that you’re a bad parent. They’re signals from a nervous system in overdrive — and once you can recognize those signals, you can change the way you respond.

We’ll talk about:

  • Why your child’s emotions can feel like a threat to your brain
  • The science behind emotional flooding (in both you and your child)
  • How stress, exhaustion, and self-expectations reduce your window of tolerance
  • What “repair” looks like — and why it matters more than getting it perfect

You’ll walk away with practical reflection questions and simple shifts that help you move from snapping to connecting — even on the hard days.


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https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24392687/


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