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Why understanding your nervous system helps you with your emotions (part 1)

Cindy Hovington, Ph.D. Season 8 Episode 30

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You’ve heard the advice: “Teach your child to name their emotions.”

But what if the real secret to helping your child (and yourself) regulate emotions starts deeper inside the body?

In this episode, I sit down with pediatric occupational therapist Laura Petix (The OT Butterfly) to uncover what’s really going on when kids have meltdowns, get overstimulated, or shut down. Spoiler alert: it’s not about being “bad” or “defiant.”

Laura explains how your child’s behavior is actually a message from their nervous system and why understanding this changes everything about the way you respond.

You’ll learn:

  • Why meltdowns, shutdowns, and big reactions are signs of nervous-system overload
  • How sensory sensitivities (sound, touch, movement) shape your child’s emotions and behavior
  • The difference between a tantrum and a meltdown and why that matters
  • Why co-regulation starts with your calm nervous system
  • The mindset shift that helps you see behavior through compassion instead of control

If you’ve ever wondered “Why does my child react this way — and why do I lose my cool, too?” this episode will open your eyes to what’s really happening beneath the surface.

Listen now and get ready to see your child’s behavior through a completely new lens.


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