Reflective Parenting by Curious Neuron
A parenting podcast that doesn't tell you HOW to parent your own child. We teach you how to think during parenting challenges and help you build emotional intelligence skills to lower your stress and help you cope with those challenging emotions that come with parenting.
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How to have emotionally intelligent arguments with your partner
Ever caught yourself rattling off an endless list of reminders to your partner before they take the kids somewhere? "Don't forget snacks, water bottles, jackets..." Sound familiar? In this illuminating episode, I share a personal revelation that transformed my understanding of parenting partnerships.
The awakening came when my mother called with a simple request—take my grandmother to her hair appointment—but followed with an exhaustive list of instructions. As frustration mounted within me ("Does she think I'm incompetent?"), I suddenly recognized this same pattern in my own behavior toward my husband. This moment of clarity prompted an immediate apology and deeper reflection on how our well-intentioned reminders can actually undermine our partners.
The episode explores practical approaches to healthier communication: setting clear goals before difficult conversations, being mindful about how we begin discussions (as this predicts how they'll end), and creating safe spaces for honest dialogue. By shifting from "do this, don't forget that" to "do you have any questions?" we honor our partners' competence while still addressing needs.
This isn't just about smoother partnerships—it's about modelling healthy relationship skills for our children. When they witness parents communicating with respect and allowing space for mistakes and learning, they absorb these patterns for their own relationships.
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Hello, my dear friend, welcome to the Reflective Parenting Podcast. My name is Cindy Huffington and I am your host. This used to be the Kirsten Ron podcast. It is the same podcast, but I just felt that it felt right to move towards the type of parenting style that we have been creating for years here at Kirsten Ron, and that is putting the power and control back into your hands. I want to make sure that all parents are moving forward with confidence and nurturing their well-being and remembering that their well-being, their needs, are not just important as parents, but even more important now.
Speaker 1:So if you are a parent that often searches for information on how to best parent your child, maybe you feel a little bit lost in what your style is. Maybe you are reading a lot about positive parenting and trying it out, yet your child's still having lots of big emotions and so you think like you might not be doing well, or you might even think that you're failing at this whole positive parenting thing. Then you are at the right place. If you are new here to the family of Curious Neuron in general and new here at the podcast, then welcome. I want to make sure that this is not your typical parenting podcast. I will not tell you how to parent your child, but I will share the science with you and share how I, as a mom of three neuroscientists, am using the science in my home so that you can learn how to best parent your own child, remembering that you have your own needs and making sure that you nurture those needs, and that is the kind of parenting style that I refer to as reflective parenting. So welcome.
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Speaker 1:All right, so today's a solo podcast, and something happened to me that made me realize I think I needed to. I need to talk about this with you. I need to share this with you so that maybe, if you are experiencing this in your home, maybe it's going to shed some light and help you gain a new perspective. So if you often feel like you are either a partner that is telling your partner or spouse do this, do that, don't forget this when you go out with the kids, bring this, bring that and don't forget this, or if you're on the receiving end of this, where your partner is telling you all of the above, if this is a situation that often happens in your home, then this podcast episode is for you. All of the above. If this is a situation that often happens in your home, then this podcast episode is for you. And if you know friends that are going through the same thing because you talk to each other about it, then please share this episode with them.
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Speaker 1:All right, so here's the situation that happened so a couple weeks ago. So my grandmother is in a retirement home, as many of you know. It's been over a year now, and my mom and my uncle they alternate turns who's going to go see her and spend some time with her, who's going to help her out? And something had happened, and so it was my mom's turn to help her to go to the retirement home, to bring my grandmother to her haircut appointment at that home. So we didn't need to leave the building. So my mom called me and said look, I'm really stuck. Can you help me please and go see her this tomorrow afternoon and bring her to her hair appointment? I said not a problem.
Speaker 1:And although it should have ended there, or perhaps one or two pieces of information, it led to something that gave me that moment of realization. So my mom said okay, don't forget, there's a code for the elevator. Here's the code. Fine, I needed that. And then she said they only take cash, so make sure you bring cash with you. No problem, that was great, I needed that information. Then she said make sure that grandma doesn't have her slippers on to go downstairs. Make sure she has her shoes on, okay.
Speaker 1:And then she said make sure that grandma isn't wearing her pajama, because sometimes when I visit her she forgets to change. My grandmother has dementia, so she forgets to change from her pajama to everyday clothing. They don't tell her to change, they just let her stay in her pajamas. But if she's going for a hair appointment, please make sure she has her clothes. And if she is wearing her clothes, make sure that at breakfast or at lunch time she didn't spill any food on her clothes. So make sure it's not soiled or dirty. And if it is, please help her change into new clothes. Okay, and then she said make sure you don't forget to give a tip to the lady I give this much. Make sure grandma has her hearing aid on. And the list goes on and on.
Speaker 1:There was a point where I was, you know, listening and saying, and then I noticed my thoughts changed. My thoughts changed from taking down notes and remembering what my mom is saying to me to do you think I'm incompetent? Why are you giving me so much information? Do you actually think that as a grown adult, I would see like a spaghetti stain or something stain on my grandmother's shirt and I would say, oh well, who cares, let's go down. In the end I might put a sweater on top of her? I might, but I understand that. Number one. Do you think, number two, that I would actually let grandmother go all the way downstairs with socks or with slippers or whatever it is? I always, when I visited her, before I put on her shoes, I help her put on her shoes and we go for a walk. I've never let her in her slippers. Also, number three, don't you know that I go to the hairdresser? I know that we leave tips.
Speaker 1:I understand the concept of going to a hairdresser and so, after she finished talking to me, I didn't get mad at her because, as I had these thoughts in my head, this is where emotion, regulation comes in, and emotional intelligence. I knew that it was coming from a good place. It wasn't removing the fact that I was getting really annoyed, because it was giving me the feeling of incompetence, because you're giving me so many details that you normally wouldn't give an adult, because it's logical thinking, but it was coming from a good place, and so that's what emotional regulation is, or emotional intelligence. It's almost having that conversation of this person is coming from a good place. They are not trying to be demeaning or dismissive or, you know, shame you in any way or making you feel like a child. That was not her intention, but it was still.
Speaker 1:I can. I can still allow myself to feel like, wow, I'm not. I don't enjoy this feeling. I know exactly what I need to do. I don't need all this information. I don't know if you see where I'm going with this yet, but after I hung up with my mom, I went downstairs, I hugged my husband and I said I'm so, so sorry. And he just looked at me and said what happened. And I said I had a moment with my mom that led to a realization of something that I tend to do with you and it doesn't come from a bad place. But if it's happening over and over again and it's giving you the feeling that I just got, then I would be really annoyed. If I were you and I explained to him what happened with my mom and then I said I saw the parallels being drawn in my mind of when you are leaving with the kids and I say don't forget some snacks, don't forget some water, make sure their shoes are tied. I'm exaggerating, but it's still an example of how I just go through the list of things that are on my mind. So that's my personal intention.
Speaker 1:When I'm leaving, I have this huge list of things on my on my mind, right the bag, whatever, wherever it depends where we're going, right, if it's a a sports event, if it's off to grandma and grandpa's house. Do you have the little school bag? Do you have this? Do you have that? In the end, all of those things actually don't matter. So I don't know if you remember the story I had told you a long time ago about the pack of Kleenex, where my husband was like do we really need to overthink what we bring with us In the end, if we need something in that laundry list? Somewhere in many, perhaps many places on that list of things to do are things that might make the other person feeling competent. Do you really think you need to tell me to tie my child's shoes?
Speaker 1:And although it's coming again from a good place, I think that if you recognize this in yourself and we spoke about this last week inside the Reflective Parent Club I shared this example with them and some of the parents mostly the moms that were there said I fall into that. I have done that many times and I see the irritation on my partner's face and I still go through the list, because that's the list that's on my mind. So what I want because we are reflective parents here at Curious Neuron what I want is for you to catch yourself in that next moment that that happens, the next time where you can hear yourself giving your partner and I don't think it might be more common for moms to do this with their partners, but maybe dads do this too, who knows but I do know that from the parents inside the Reflective Parent Club. The moms were saying that they feel like they do this. But I know that as moms, and as a mom myself, I know that we often give ourself a really long laundry list of things to do before we leave the house, and so the first thing is am I adding extra stress to myself when I'm leaving the home? Is it the end of the world if every child doesn't have a water bottle, or if we have one instead of three? Is it the end of the world if I don't bring snacks for a 20-minute errand? Is it the end of the world if I don't bring their school bag to grandma and grandpa's house and all they have are a pack of crayons that I left at grandma and grandpa's house and they're going to have to figure out what to do with blank paper and crayons. What are we? What kind of pressure are we placing on ourselves? Number one that we could kind of minimize a little bit so that it removes the pressure on ourselves when we're leaving the home or doing an activity or doing something with the kids.
Speaker 1:The second thing is when we notice ourselves in this moment with our partners, can we catch ourselves and just pause right? The art of the pause, the beauty of the pause is it allows us to reflect. And so, if you're going through this list of things to do, can you stop yourself at one moment and say, oh, I'm really sorry, I was just going through the list that I have on my mind, but maybe your list is different, maybe your way of going about this is different. Do you have any questions? You are bringing the kids the two kids to soccer today, and usually I do it. Do you have any questions? And there may be two or three things that I just don't want you to forget. I'm going to say it, not because I think you're incompetent or that you won't figure it out, I just need to get it off my mind.
Speaker 1:Can we, as couples start having more of these discussions, these reflective parenting questions, in the sense that we are more aware, we are self-aware, we regulate our emotions, we have the social skills to say okay, I'm so sorry, I didn't even realize what I was saying and how I was saying it, that it was leading to you feeling incompetent. I didn't mean to do that, that was not my intention, but I can see. I can totally see how it's leading to that. So you tell me when you're leaving, ask me the question, but there are still maybe one or two major things or more important things that I need you to know. How do we start having these discussions as couples? Because our kids are watching and so, instead of bickering at each other because we're annoying each other and we're frustrating each other, why not just have better, healthier, more opened conversations which will allow our children to see that we're asking each other hey, what are your needs right now? What do you need? Or what you're saying isn't making me feel great right now. You're making me feel like a child, you're making me feel incompetent, and I know that one of the moms that we had, one of the moms, brought up the reason why she tends to do this is because something is always forgotten.
Speaker 1:If her husband brings the kids to daycare in the morning, which is something she usually does, if he brings them, somebody doesn't have a pair of shoes, somebody doesn't have a jacket or snow pants in the winter, and so on. But then I think it comes back down to what we had as a conversation with Jessica Leahy right In her book called the Gift of Failure. I think it comes back down to that. If we are always telling somebody what to do, they will not be thinking for themselves In the end. That mom who said you know her husband had forgotten before she had facts right that her husband had forgotten a pair of shoes or snow pants or an extra shirt or whatever it was. In the end, if we've made those mistakes too, we have to be honest with ourselves. We've been so caught up that we've forgotten things too. And what happens? We try to establish better systems right.
Speaker 1:So if you do want to support your partner, you might say tomorrow night, just don't forget to put the shoes in front of the near the door, whatever it is. Have a conversation. What do you need from me? You're bringing the kids to daycare tomorrow you might have a lot on your mind because of work. Do you need me to support you with anything, rather than just saying it bring this, bring that, don't forget this, don't forget that.
Speaker 1:As the other person on the receiving end, it actually does become overwhelming. I experienced it for the first time. I was like, wow, this isn't fun, I don't like this. But I'm usually the person on the end of telling somebody what to do. And again, if we are the parent that's used to bring the kids to school or daycare, or the activities or preparing for certain things, yeah, we're used to having this list on our mind and we're used to going through that entire list on our mind. So just start by being aware of when you do it and then have better conversations with your partner.
Speaker 1:In terms of the night before, how do you prepare a plan for what's coming ahead tomorrow? How do you say, what do you need from me? What do you need in terms of support or a reminder? And if they say nothing and they don't bring the shoes, the next time they bring the kids, hopefully you know your kid will wear boots during the day and that's not the end of the world. But I think that we need to give our partners a little bit more space to make the mistakes, similarly to our kids giving them the space to not bring the water bottle. And then the child says I'm so thirsty, I'm thirsty, give me water, give me water. And you're in the car and you're like, oh my gosh, I should bring water with me, and if it doesn't happen, then that's fine. Maybe we're placing too much pressure on ourselves to bring all of these things when, in the end, we don't really need them. Maybe we need them once in a while. So, again, giving ourselves space to make the mistakes, giving our partner space to make the mistake and learn from them as well, but making sure that we're not always pushing this huge laundry list of things to remember on our partner, because on the receiving end of that, it doesn't feel that great.
Speaker 1:I gave a workshop to teachers last week and I'm giving another one next week as well, and it's around emotional intelligence, which is my own specialty. I give this at workplaces is my own specialty. I give this at workplaces. I give this to teachers as well and admin. And what we focused on was not the self-awareness and emotion regulation piece or self-regulation piece of emotional intelligence, but the social awareness and the relationship management. So what we spoke about was something, a concept that I think I'll come back to and record an entire episode on, but I want you to have this information because there was something, a concept, that I think I'll come back to and record an entire episode on. But I want you to have this information because there was a book I read that was. It's a Harvard Business Review book and it's about conflict, no, dealing with difficult people, and it talks about having this monitor or this visual in your mind of is this conversation moving towards the red zone, so hot, or is this conversation moving towards the cold zone or is it in between, in the warm zone? You want conversations mostly to be in the warm zone because when you're in the warm zone it's kind of like being regulated right, so you're able to rationalize, you're able to think, you're not yelling at each other and you're not keeping things in. So that's what the red zone is.
Speaker 1:Red zone is when one or more people involved in this conflict are yelling, are belittling, shaming, name-calling, etc. Etc. That would be a conversation in the hot zone. That's when you say you know what? It is not the right time to have this conversation and the reason why I'm talking about this for a few minutes is because maybe in your home, you giving the laundry list leads to an argument, right, and so I want you to catch yourself in this moment. Am I escalating the situation right now? Is it into the red zone? Somebody's yelling, somebody's shaming, somebody's saying you always do this or you never do that, you always forget this, you never do it right. That would be a red zone. That's not a healthy place to have a conversation or an argument, and so, if it is in the red zone, either you step away or you find a way to cool the conversation enough that you end up in the warm zone of a conflict.
Speaker 1:Sometimes conflict could be stuck in the cold zone. Cold is when one or more of the parties are suppressing, are shutting down, are becoming passive, aggressive. That's a cold conversation. And so if you find yourself in a cold conversation, you need to say how can I warm this conversation up? I know that I'm speaking about it in a way that it is in your control, but as somebody who follows reflective parenting and the science here at Curious Neuron, you know that sometimes, or most of the time, these situations are in your control when you notice, hey, this conversation is going to the cold zone. My partner is shutting down. You know that if you don't warm it up, it won't go anywhere. That is the awareness that you have built, and if you are new here at Curious Neuron, it takes a little bit of time, but you will get there. You will get to the awareness of I can tell if I'm regulated or not, I can tell if the other person is regulated or not. And how do I apply this in conflict and in relationship management? So in the cold zone, warming it up means you're giving that person space to feel safe, to feel comfortable, to connect with them, or again, stepping away from it if it's not the right time.
Speaker 1:We were talking about this a few weeks ago inside the Reflective Parent Club and somebody mentioned that their own partner, often during conflict, when they are really frustrated about something and bringing something to their partner's attention, that their partner will shut down, just sit there and listen, not yell, but not respond either, and that this parent in particular felt that they were being put in a position where they would have to yell and say say something, talk to me, respond. I'm trying to have a conversation with you and all you're doing is sitting there and saying nothing. I'm expecting a response from you, and so, as we continued the conversation inside our weekly meeting, what we came to the realization of is that kind of language is not creating a safe space for that person to say what they're thinking, to respond, to react because you are in the red zone, they're in the cold, you are in the red, and so if you can catch yourself in that moment, then perhaps you can warm up a little bit and try to support that person in that moment. Here's a difference. Just by using different language, I noticed that you are not saying anything. I really need to hear what you're thinking, because I'm trying to share something, a challenge or something that really frustrated me. I'm trying to get it off my back and share it with you. I don't know if I use the wrong tone or the wrong words, but I really need to hear what you're thinking. Is this the right time to have a conversation or do you want to talk about it after dinner? Right? That language completely changes what's going on, and now that person has to respond. Either they want to have the conversation now or they say, no, let's have it after dinner, but then they're expected to speak and so we're opening up the conversation and the dialogue to warm up the conversation. That is very different than yelling at the person.
Speaker 1:When I was giving the workshop last week, someone said something interesting and he said when my wife and I are arguing, I stay quiet because I do not like conflict. I want this to end as quickly as possible and so if I just sit there and I agree and I don't let what she is saying or the situation get to me, it'll be done much more quickly than if I speak up. My response to this person was the following For so long and for so many of us, we see conflict as a bad thing, including myself, or I used to. I remember when I got married the first year or two, I saw conflict as the end of the marriage. If you have conflict in my understanding, because I came from a broken home, conflict meant we hated each other and that this was not going to work. That took therapy to work through and that took a lot of me working through conflicts, reflecting after the conflict, to understand that conflict is actually a good thing.
Speaker 1:Me bringing something up to my partner or my partner bringing something up to me is because we care enough about this relationship to want to solve it. We don't want to let it. We don't want to push it under the sweep it under the rug or let it kind of hang around so that it keeps coming back up in conflict. We love each other enough to have the conflict. Conflict is just a conversation. That can get heated, that can become cold, but if we have skills together and enough conversation, we can notice whether or not it's the right time to have this conflict. And so conflict is actually a good thing. It is a discussion.
Speaker 1:Here's one little piece of information that I gave these people at the workshop that I think will help you. Every conversation, whether it's a conflict or argument or just a regular conversation, should have a goal. What is the goal of this conversation? So, for example, if you bring up something to your partner like you are struggling with keeping up with the home or you're struggling with keeping up with the kids' activities if you have the intention to bring this up to your partner, then you need to have a goal in mind. What is the goal of this conversation? Do you want a game plan, moving forward so that things are divided a bit more equally. Do you want validation or them to say I've seen you've been doing it all and I know I've been struggling to help out? Are you looking for an explanation as to why they haven't been supporting you or struggling? That's the first thing, right? So, understanding what the goal is, going into the conflict? We had interviewed a couples therapist inside the Reflective Parent Club during the winter and I forget the percentage I'd have to go back to listen to the webinar. The webinar is always housed inside the Reflective Parent Club. So if you love having Q&As with authors, we have a book club inside the Reflective Parent Club. All of this is part of the Reflective Parent Club.
Speaker 1:So this particular Vanessa Morgan, she had said that the start of an argument or conversation predicts the ending of it, and so if you start a conversation with you never, you, always, why don't you? Or name calling you're so selfish, you're so lazy I guarantee you that the outcome of that is not great, because you are, in one sentence, either making it hot or cold, shutting that person down or completely dysregulating them to the point that they're going to become defensive. And, as we know from Gottman's Four Horsemen, defensiveness is one of those horsemen that lead to the death of the conversation and is a predictor of a marriage that will not succeed. That's one of the four which maybe I should talk about those in another episode. I know we had a whole webinar on those inside the Reflected Parent Club, but I don't know if I've spoken about that here, so maybe I can talk about that next time.
Speaker 1:But, all that to say, be very mindful about how you begin that conversation. Don't have it in your mind, as I'm going to go into an argument with this person. I'm going to have conversation and the goal of my conversation is blank, whatever it is, and so I'm going to monitor the temperature of the conversation to make sure that it stays warm, and if it does, if it doesn't, sorry, and it gets out of control and it's stuck in cold and stuck in hot, I'm going to have to step away from the conversation. But ask my partner when the right time would be, because I need again, depending on what your goal is, this I need this to be the outcome of this conversation Tell them what your goal is. Maybe that could even help them understand why you're having this conversation.
Speaker 1:Start off with listen. You know I've really been struggling. I'm feeling overwhelmed and I've noticed that the kids have a lot of activities and I'm the one that's bringing them all the time. I know that you are at work or you say you don't have time or you're tired, but my goal right now is to have a conversation with you so that we can figure out how to work on this together. I need support or we need to cut out some activities. I don't know what the outcome of this conversation is going to be, but I need an answer.
Speaker 1:There's a very big difference approaching somebody this way than saying I'm so tired and fed up, I'm the one doing everything, you do nothing, et cetera, et cetera. So that is all I wanted to share with you today. I hope that this will give you some perspective or allow some insight to happen. You can listen to this episode with your partner, take some notes down in terms of where there's space or room for both of you to make improvements when it comes to conflict, is there space or room to improve how you have conversations together, how you open up a conversation together, how you tell each other what to do when you're leaving the house, when you're going to some activity with your kids?
Speaker 1:I hope that this opens up the conversation in a very emotionally aware and emotionally intelligent way, which is everything that we do here inside of Curious Neuron, inside this podcast, reflective Parenting, and as well inside our new club, the Reflective Parenting Club. If you and or your partner feel like you need a bit more support, you can join together and join me every week. There are people that have their partners there that re-watch the webinars of their partners. This is not positive parenting. This is for parents who just feel like they are overwhelmed with how to parent their child and, more importantly, realize that a big part of that is because they never learned how to regulate their emotions. And I'm here to help you. I hope you all have a wonderful and beautiful week, happy reflections and I will see you next Monday. Bye.